about marriage Socrates: "Whichever you do, you will repent." Montaigne: "It happens as one sees in cages. The birds outside despair of every getting in; those inside are equally desirous of getting out." Bacon: "A young man not yet; an elder man not at all." Pepys: "Strange to say what delight we married people have to see these poor folk decoyed into our condition." Dr.Johnson: "Sir, it is so far from being natural for a man and woman to live in a state of marriage that we find all the motives which they have for remaining in that connection and the restraints which civilised society imposes to prevent separation are hardly sufficient to keep them together." 仅翻译最后一段(也是印象最深的一段): “先生,”他说,“要让一个男人和一个女人活在婚姻的状态中,实在不是一件自然的事情。因为我们发现,能让他们保持这种关系的各种动力,以及文明社会强加给他们的种种约束,都不足以让他们厮守终生。”