15. 对所见所闻之物不渴求,掌控的自我意识,就是不执。The consciousness of self-mastery in one who is free fromcraving from objects seen or heard about is non-attachment.
通常,心会对看见或听到的事物产生执着。主要的通过眼睛和耳朵,心跑出去寻找东西来满足自己的欲望。在心被所看见或听到的事物吸引之前,你要先分辨这个事物对你是有益还是无益。心不能这样随意抓它想要的东西。
“不执”不应被误解为漠不关心,Vairāgya (non-attachment) 字意是“无色的”,Vai是“没有、无”,rāga是“色彩”。所有的欲望都带有各自的色彩,你将心着上色彩的一刹那,一个涟漪就形成了,就像把一块石头扔进平静的水里,它会产生水波。当心被一个接着一个的欲望投掷时,心是无法得到休息与和平的,以一个得不到休息的心去练习合一,是没有办法稳住的。当你想不断地去做一件事情,就不应该被其它的欲望分了心。这就是为什么练习时永远都得不执着、无所牵挂。任何练习如果不能不执着,是很难完成的。
常有人说:“我练习冥想静坐很多年了,我每天祈祷,早晚都做。”是的,他们是这么做的,我们必须接受这个事实,因为我们看到他们每天坐在那儿冥想,或是上教堂、入庙宇。有的时候,他们坐在圣坛前,一坐就是好几个钟头。有些人每日念一遍圣经,有些人每天重复念诵《薄珈梵歌》(BhagavadGītā),他们甚至不念完就不吃东西。当他们起身的瞬间,他们又立刻回到圣坛前,又把经文从头念一遍,连一杯水都没有喝!但是,他们依然停留在同一个阶段。原因就是他们的心仍然会因为不同的欲望而离开、跑掉。
有多少人站在圣坛前,心里却想着自己的事业,或是眼睛四处观望,看看有几位朋友来了?庙宇和教堂常常变成了社交中心。他们失去了原本的目的,因为人们的心都比较容易被世俗的事而非祈祷文所吸引。嘴巴也许像留声机一般,很机械地念着祈祷文,但心早已跑向它处。所以,你无法安住心,让它静下来,除非它能不受欲望所扰。当我们的心没有执着时,才能静坐冥想。事实上,你根本就不需要去练习冥想,只要你的心能够完全脱离自私的欲望,你会发觉你总是轻松自在,不会焦躁,也不会沮丧。因此,我们需要练习,和不执着。在这二者之间,不执着比较重要。
有人会立刻问道: “如果心没有执着,那你不是失去了所有的动力而变成迟钝的人了吗?”不是的,当我们说不执着,意思是没有个人的欲望。如果你真的想要贪心,那么就贪心地去服务别人,试着帮助别人减轻痛苦。一旦你在个人生活中不再执着,你就能服务他人了。这样一来,你会越来越快乐。这就是为什么有时候我说:无私的人是最自私的人。为什么呢?因为一个无私的人是不愿意失去他的和平与快乐的。
即使与神在一起的时候,也不要有个人的欲望与执着。很多人在接近神的时候说:“神啊,给我这个,给我那个,让我这次竞选胜利吧。”或者说:“如果您让我通过这次考试,我会为您点十根蜡烛。”我们在试着跟神做生意,这只显示了我们的无知,那些蜡烛是神赐给我们的,为什么我们要将蜡烛还给他?还说得好像是我们自己创造的一样。欲望的心迷惑了我们,使我们变得无知。有欲望者的分辨能力已完全消失了,他或她的兴趣只是要达成某些事,如此而已。有欲望的人不想等待和思考。
《吠陀经》里说:“甚至寻求解脱的欲望也是一种束缚。”莫克纱贝克秀·班达哈(Mo****hekshtoBandhahn)说:“即使你希望能得到解脱,这正好束缚了自己。每个愿望都会束缚你,使你无法停息。想要解脱,就要完全地无欲。”
有没有可能做到没有欲望?事实上,这是不可能的。只要心在,它的任务就是产生欲望。这好像是矛盾的,但奥妙之处是,任何没有个人与自私动机的欲望是不会束缚你的。为什么?因为纯洁、无私的欲望是没有任何期待的,所以,不论结果如何,它都不会失望。虽然它没有任何期待,但它自有酬报。当你让他人快乐时,看到那快乐的脸庞,自己也感到快乐。如果你真正体验过这种纯粹为了给予而给予的快乐,你会贪心地等待一次又一次的得到这些快乐的机会。
很多人认为放弃所有的东西,变成无私和无欲,就无欢喜可言。不,不是的,正好相反,你变成了最快乐的人。服务得越多,你享有的快乐就越多,这种人懂得生命的奥妙——丢掉所有东西,给予所有东西带来喜悦。拥有东西,并不会得到永久的快乐,拥有的东西越多,你就会变得越不快乐。
我们没有看到百万富翁、社会地位高的人、首相、总统吗?他们快乐吗? 不,地位越高,麻烦事就越多。只有圣人、无执的人是永恒快乐的,因为圣人已经没有东西可以失去。因为你什么都没有,你永远只有自己,这就是奥秘。所以我们说:“要无执,无所牵挂,无欲。” 不执于世俗的东西,你就拥有了最重要的神圣财产:和平。
Normally, the mind gets attached by seeing or hearing something. It is mainly through the eyes and ears that the mind goes out and gathers things to satisfy its desires. Before the mind is attracted to something it sees or hears, you should have discrimination to see whether that object is good for you or not. The mind should not just go and grasp as it wants.
Non-attachment should not be misunderstood to be indifference. Vairāgya (non-attachment) literally means “colorless.” Viis “without;” rāga is “color.” Every desire brings its own color to the mind.The moment you color the mind, a ripple is formed—just as when a stone is thrown into a calm lake, it creates waves in the water. When the mind is tossed by these desires one after the other, there won’t be peace or rest in the mind.And with a restless mind you can’t have steady practice. When you want to do something constantly, your mind should not be distracted by other desires. That’s why this sort of dispassion or non-attachment must always go with the practice. Any practice without this non-attachment can never be fulfilled.
Many times people say, “Oh, I have been practicing meditation for so many years. I pray daily, morning and evening.” Yes, they do that; we have to accept it because we see them sitting in meditation every day or going to the church or temple. Sometimes they sit in front of the altar for hours and hours. There are people who read the whole Bible every day. There are people who repeat the Bhagavad Gītā every day—they won’t even eat until they do that. The moment they get up, they go in front ofthe altar and repeat the entire Gītā before even drinking a glass of water! But still they remain in the same state. The reason is that their minds are still dissipated because of the different desires.
How many people stand in front ofthe altar and think of their business or allow their eyes to wander about to see how many of their friends are there? Temples and churches have become social centers. They have lost their original purpose because the minds of the people are more attracted to worldly things than to prayer. The lips may repeat the prayer mechanically like a phonograph record, but the mind wanders to other places. That’s why you can’t collect and compose the mind unless it is free from distracting desires. Meditation is possible only when the mind is free from attachment. In fact, you need not even practice meditation if your mind is completely free from all selfish desire. You will see that you are always at ease; you will never become restless and never disappointed. So we need the practice and the non-attachment; and, of these two, the non-attachment is the more important.
Immediately somebody will ask, “Ifyou are unattached, won’t you lose all incentive and become dull?” No. When we say unattached, it means without personal desires. If you really want to be greedy, be greedy in serving others. Try to remove the suffering of other people. Once you are unattached in your personal life, you can serve others,and by doing that you will find more and more joy. That’s why sometimes I say that the selfless person is the most selfish one. Why? Because a selflessperson doesn’t want to lose his or her peace and happiness.
Even with God, do not have personal desire or attachment. Many people approach God and say, “God, give me this;give me that; help me win this campaign,” or “If you help me pass this examination,I will light ten candles.” We try to do business with God. It only shows ourown ignorance. Those very candles were given to us by God, so what is the ideaof giving them back to God as if we have created something? Our desirous mind deludes us, and we become ignorant. The discrimination of a desirous person gets completely faded. His or her interest is to achieve things, that’s all; the desirous person doesn’t bother to wait and think.
The Vedantic scriptures say: “Even the desire for liberation is a bondage.” “Mokṣabhekṣo bandhaḥ.” Even if you desire liberation, you are binding yourself. Every desire binds you and brings restlessness.To get the liberation you have to be completely desireless.”
Is it possible to be desireless? No.Actually, it is not possible. As long as the mind is there, its duty is to desire. It seems to be contradictory. But the secret is that any desire without any personal or selfish motive will never bind you. Why? Because the pure, selfless desire has no expectation whatsoever, so it knows no disappointment no matter what the result. But though it expects nothing, it has its own reward. When you make someone happy, you see his or her happy face and feel happy yourself. If you have really experienced the joy of just giving something for the sake of giving,you will wait greedily for opportunities to get that joy again and again.
Many people think that by renouncing everything, by becoming selfless and desireless, there is no enjoyment. No.That is not so. Instead, you become the happiest man or woman. The more you serve,the more happiness you enjoy. Such a person knows the secret of life. There is a joy in losing everything, in giving everything. You cannot be eternally happy by possessing things. The more you possess, the more sad you become.
Haven’t we seen millionaires, people of high position, prime ministers, presidents? Are they happy? No. The higher the position, the greater the trouble. Only a saint, a renunciate, is always happy because there is nothing for a saint to lose. Because you don’t have anything, you have your Self always. That is the secret. That’s why we say, “Have vairāgya, have dispassion, have non-attachment.” By renouncing worldly things,you possess the most important sacred property: your peace.
