悲伤能否终结?或者说,恐惧能否终结?当你为某个人的死去而哭泣,你是在为自己哭泣还是在为别人哭泣?你曾经为别人哭泣过吗?请务必仔细听。你为别人哭泣过吗?——为大街上那个只有一片破布遮体、肮脏不堪的可怜女人或者男人而哭泣?你可曾为他哭泣?
Have you ever cried for your son who is killed on the battlefield? You have cried, but is that cry out of self-pity, or have you cried because a human being has been killed? If you cry out of self-pity, your tears have no meaning because you are concerned about yourself; and ‘yourself’ is a bundle of memories, experiences, the past tradition; you are crying because you have been bereft of him in whom you had invested a great deal of your affection—it wasn’t really affection.
你可曾为战场上被杀害的儿子哭泣过?你哭泣过,但那哭泣是出于自怜呢,还是因为一个人被杀害了而哭泣?如果你是因为自怜而哭泣,你的眼泪就没有意义,因为你关心的是你自己;而“你自己”是一堆记忆和经验,是过去的传统;你哭泣,是因为你失去了他,而你在他身上投入了许多的关爱——那并不是真的爱。
You cry for your brother who dies, cry for him, not for yourself. It is very easy to cry for yourself because he is gone. Have you ever asked yourself what happened to him, why did he die? I know all the answers you are going to give me. You will say he died of disease, accident; it is his karma, it is his lot, he didn’t live properly: explanations, explanations, explanations. Are you crying for explanations, or are you crying for another human being? Have you ever been concerned for another?
你为死去的兄弟哭泣,为他哭泣,而不是为了你自己。因为他故去了而为自己哭泣是很容易的一件事。你可曾问过自己他身上发生了什么事,他为什么死去?我知道你会告诉我的所有答案。你会说他死于疾病、意外;这是他的业报,是他的命运,他没有好好活着。解释,解释,再解释,你是为了解释而哭泣呢,还是为了另一个人而哭泣?你关心过别人吗?
Please, you have to answer these questions for yourself, for you have become so worldly, so utterly callous. And if you cried for another, then you would do something. But if you cry for yourself, out of self-pity, you become more callous. Although you apparently cry because your heart is touched, it is not touched, except by self-pity. Self-pity makes you hard, encloses you, it makes you dull, stupid; that is what human beings have become, because they have shed tears over themselves, over their lot, and their lot is always small compared to something else.
请注意,你得自己来回答这些问题,因为你已经变得如此世俗、如此极端地冷漠。如果你是为别人而哭泣,那么你会做些什么的。但是,如果你是出于自怜而为自己哭泣,那么你就会变得更加冷漠。尽管从表面上看,你哭泣是因为你的内心受到了触动,但是除了自怜以外你并没有被触动。自怜使你冷漠,将你封闭,让你变得迟钝和愚蠢。这就是人类如今变成的样子,因为他们为自己、为自己的命运而哭泣,而他们的命运与另一些东西相比总是显得微不足道。